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hello hello and welcome to another
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episode of the juice box mom's show I am
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talking with my beautiful friend Beth
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who's in Florida who recently was
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affected by some of the hurricanes there
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a little bit we were visiting just a
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minute ago about how much that really
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makes you appreciate like what you have
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and how spoiled we are and I'm just so
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happy to see your beautiful face and we
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were supposed to get together a few
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weeks ago I know and we weren't able to
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but we've rescheduled the event so I'm
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excited that the The Sisterhood
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entrepreneurs event can hopefully pull
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off in February and we'll get to hug
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there's something about hugging friends
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isn't that true that you only see so
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true face-to-face interaction and
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communication is like a lost art form I
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feel like and it's so powerful and just
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so heartwarming but yes I'm really
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excited I'm excited for the retreat and
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just in general in life I feel like
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that's a lesson I've learned this
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weekend it's only Tuesday on Tuesday and
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you've already got a lesson but the
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lesson I've learned this week or may be
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a good reminder that just face-to-face
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is always better always better what you
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know whatever the topic of conversation
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if you can do it face to face
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or alive in some way sea which is why we
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have video in all of our juicebox
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podcast and today since you know I know
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that you have like an athletic side to
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your business I purposely like I totally
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dressed for the part today and I didn't
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make up and I haven't worked out yet so
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I had like my Richard Simmons Jazzercise
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band going on I love it so I was totally
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only that for that reason I had nothing
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to do with not having time because I
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made my children microwave their browse
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of course moms always have more time
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than we know what to do with absolutely
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there's a plethora so but I start all of
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my interviews with what I call a prohm
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so it's a prayer and a poem that I kind
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of put together and so I just ask God to
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guide our conversation and to be with us
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and you know me I just believe that he
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is in the middle of anything that is
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powerful and passionate and worthwhile
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he said and he wants to be part of so I
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wrote a little chrome for you and
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they're usually a little fun and
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everything so are you ready
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okay yeah don't get super excited I know
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like Shelley silverstein or anything
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okay Beth and I met getting her business
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all set so that she could help many more
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kids learn to sweat but now he's become
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more since we both love the Lord and he
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always makes sure that we never get
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bored right for Beth and thank you for
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our time together and I just pray a
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blessing over you and your family and
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our conversation and any mama who's out
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there listening today that these words
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just fall on her heart and her soul and
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help her move towards acceptance of her
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Worth and her children and her family
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and her work and any and everything that
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he's purposed for her amen and
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hallelujah amen so Beth tell us a little
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bit just give us your like three
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sentence Who am I story
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who's better in sentences now you just
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you you wasted one on correcting the
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three sentences I am first and foremost
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a child of God I am a wife a boy mom and
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an entrepreneur and I love my faith my
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family and fitness in that order that's
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right that's C so I had in my pro I'm
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sure people were like what why are
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children sweating with this woman that's
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how we met was you were doing
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recess results and you had a whole bunch
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of really cool stuff going on and you'd
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created kind of this chain of helping
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I'm going into schools and helping moms
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or anyone who wanted to kind of create a
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play program for kids and it was super
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fabulous and now we know each other
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through The Sisterhood of Christian
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entrepreneurs and all the great work
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that you're doing there so what I like
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to do a juice box is kind of just do I
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always say past present future so the
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purpose of the podcast is really to help
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moms like relate to other moms and their
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stories and their journey and
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understanding that we all have unmet
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expectations at some point in time right
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so we thought life was gonna go one
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direction we had all figured out
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usually most of us moms especially that
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are entrepreneurs we take off in our
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career and we have all these great
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things to aspire to and what's the
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opposite of being a mom
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productivity so the reality is it's like
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we get outsider I know it is and we get
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all excited and then we're like oh my
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gosh I can't do anything but keep these
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children alive and so we go kind of
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through this transition and this
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metamorphosis of them recognizing that
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you get to keep these children alive
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right like you get this huge role in
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your life but meanwhile there's kind of
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this push-pull and so I think so much of
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that is indicative of where we came from
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and where we started so tell us a little
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bit about just kind of growing up what
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your mom was like what you know your
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ideas of motherhood work so I grew up on
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a farm in the breasts God did not expect
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the farm in Nebraska oh that always
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surprises so many people I did I grew up
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on a farm in Nebraska I went to a very
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small school there were eight people in
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my class all the way through eighth
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grade and in high school I had 65 so
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still very very small I I went to what I
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call the farm kids school and it was
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awesome and you know I knew the same
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people growing up like everyone knew
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everyone everyone's family knew everyone
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that's kind of how I how I was raised
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my dad was a farmer so an entrepreneur
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you know in that sense and my mom stayed
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at home for the most part until we were
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older and then she started working a
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little bit also outside of the home
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actually in a school so we I guess like
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my early picture of mom hood or what my
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mom was like was that I really was like
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wow I mean she's my mom raised six kids
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I was number five of six oh my goodness
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no I kind of learned that my mom was a
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great delegator because I had older
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siblings too you know and my soul so
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let's talk about the farm for a second
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so when you start delicate like I'm
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still like totally best engels little
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house like yeah like horses aprons like
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milk and the cat I mean was that like
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literally your life like you did but
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when I say
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was a great delegator she was like okay
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you know you're gonna go feed the
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chickens you're gonna go and feed the
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cattle you're gonna give this baby cow
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whose mom died a bottle
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you're gonna go mow the lawn and you're
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gonna do the garden you know like
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everything all things farm yes that was
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my life's not about you oh my gosh okay
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yeah so mom delegated so you were like
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when I become a mom I'm gonna delegate
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sort of I mean we lived by chores we
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really lived by chores and we learned a
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lot of responsibility and work ethic
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through chores now my dad had a little
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more of a playful side so my dad was
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very work hard play hard kind of guy but
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you don't get a do one with about the
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other kind of things oh it was it was
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really good to learn that balance but
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man you know Sam came really early but
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there was just there was always
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something to be done so okay dad you
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said dad was playful so was mom a little
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was she the disciplinarian a little more
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firm like who took on those roles yeah
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my mom was a little more it's so funny
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because my mom was a little more firm
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but we were more worried about my dad
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being disappointed though it was a bad
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cop yes yes I'm sure
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and my dad was definitely the one that
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let us have a little more fun and gave
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us a little more rope you know and yeah
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my mom was definitely more strict we
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also grew up very religious we went to
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church every Sunday it was just
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something we did not miss it didn't
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matter if you weren't feeling well you
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were tired didn't matter and we went to
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church every Sunday which is something I
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really appreciate you know that they
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instilled in us yeah absolutely
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okay so how did you go from Nebraska so
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you grew up on the farm up early milking
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the cows counting the eggs and then to
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where you are so you finish high school
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and then what did you go on to college
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as you want to have a degree a career or
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did you aspire to
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my Ingles like where Joe I always like
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get me on the fastest horse out of here
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yeah like there is more than this out
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there what is it let me find out I don't
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know let me explore there's something a
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lifetime movie like you know that leaves
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the farm and yeah okay totally yeah so I
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left after high school and I went to I
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started nursing school actually one of
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the things about growing up in a small
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town in Nebraska that at least for me
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from my perspective is you don't really
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know what's out there
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so as a as a Nebraska farm girl I was
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like okay if I don't want to be a
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farmer's wife yeah I can be a nurse or I
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could be a teacher and was that kind of
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when it stopped like there was no
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astrophysics Scientology surgery yeah I
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kind of didn't know what else was her
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service you know what though that's
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probably some indicative of your faith
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because you know our faith very clearly
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reminds us that acts of service are
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where our true joy is and especially as
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women nurturers moms and it is until we
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get out and see other places that we can
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serve in careers with numbers and math
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and all kinds of things but when we
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don't know that yet acts of service are
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carrying genuinely for the well being
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like the literal well-being of others
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teaching nothing those are very very
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sadly trades that I think are are losing
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they fall to the bottom of the pile
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they're not paid enough and I appreciate
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it
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that's because usually they're done by
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people that are just so grateful to be
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doing them right yeah true yeah so any
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health care profession I mean nursing
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you know doctor any any work in a
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hospital or doctor's office kind of
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thing was what I was like all right I
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guess this is my ticket out of here and
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at that time I was like travel nursing
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great I'll do that and then we'll go
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around and I'll kind of learn like see
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the world and perfect so student loan
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forgiveness the whole thing so I went to
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I started nursing school and quickly
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realized as you've said that it takes a
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very special type of person to be a
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nurse and that if I didn't fully love it
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with every ounce of my being I would not
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do
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anyone a good service by staying in that
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profession so I changed my major to
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health fitness to be on the preventative
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side of things and I moved to Washington
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DC to finish school so it looked like my
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first delete bug here I go
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I love how this all likely like our
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stories are so there's these spaces and
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the cool thing is is that to look at you
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know growing up on a farm and then
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you're like okay and now health fit like
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where and but you see the connection you
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see the easy flow and the link between
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well into nursing and caring and then
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nursing roles into fitness and health
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fitness and preventive care and you know
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and nothing is wasted like every single
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thing that we do connects the chain and
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the link and the story and it solidifies
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this foundation with which we do the
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next thing and it makes me feel sad
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sometimes when I talk to moms or women
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who are like I just spent all these
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years like chasing this dream and a
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little bit you know people ask me that
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about my boogie wife's story all the
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time like oh my gosh you lost all these
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years of your life I'm like no no no let
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me just tell you how much is good now
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because of what was bad then right yeah
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decided was was bad or challenging then
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so I love just listening to that flow of
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you know the chicken farmers daughter
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all the way to see ya to say my parents
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really played a big part in that too
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because they never let us be lazy I
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guess I mean not only did we always have
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chores to do but it's like work was done
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it was go play outside
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there was no sitting in front of a TV we
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had 6 kids so we couldn't afford
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electronics there was no you know there
12:43
was no playing Nintendo all day so we
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had to be creative when we played
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outside and we made them games and we
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played with our siblings because we
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didn't have neighbors oh it was I love
12:53
it and now it's like I mean the other
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day and it was like the street light it
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was like going on it was like this is
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how I used to know what it was time to
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go home right let's came on that was
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like your curfew and it's so true about
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and you know we could probably have a
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whole other podcast about electronics
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and playing outside and and and
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everybody's on I see the value of both
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of it as much
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for quite a while wanted to fight the
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electronics and label them as bad I
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really learned that my role as a mom is
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actually to teach my children how to use
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them responsibly and in a positive way
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and God's kingdom because you know what
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he's allowing them for a reason there's
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a connectivity aspect to them that is
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really important right now and an aspect
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empathy and understanding what others
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are going through because the greater
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the just the the evil and the sadness
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and the destruction in the world the
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more we need to see that and pray over
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that and care about that and that's
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really something that that electronics
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aspect does allow us to do now sitting
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mindlessly in gaming is a whole nother
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conversation but my point being you know
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I've gotten on board to the fact that
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you know I have kids that want Instagram
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and snapchat and all those kinds of
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things I've recently figured out that my
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teenagers love languages snapchat
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literally he will just like communicate
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to me during the day and it's kind of I
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almost feel like just his way of being
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like I'm thinking of you and it's a
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random like you know snapchat silly but
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it's important and so I got snapchat and
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I figured it out and you know but the
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plane outside there's really I mean just
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a fresh hair or in God's country and so
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ok so Washington DC I have to stay
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focused a squirrel a lot you can say ok
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so Washington DC health and fitness when
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did you get married why would you
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thought where did all that married four
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years ago in October
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wow so I got married yeah I was 30
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a little 31 pounds was 30 or 31 I was a
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little see what I got here maybe a
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little later in life I don't know is
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that later um you know some people are
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in the 20s whatever I had my 20s to
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explore and I loved I was I was a gypsy
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I lived in like three cities in three
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years I think or five years or something
15:05
and I'm cool he San Francisco and
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Florida and it was amazing I loved it I
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met some of the best people I have great
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connections everywhere and great
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friendships everywhere
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and yeah worked fertile Clubman I just I
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was I was young with no tie so I got
15:24
transferred and it was awesome
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very cool
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lots of experience speaking of to build
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on perspective you know to go from how
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you grew up now was your mom kind of did
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you keep in touch with them when you
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flew the coop or were you like I'm out
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I'll call when I you know I'm around I
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mean how did you love so one great thing
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about my parents also is that they
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really raised us to be independent and I
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think I took that and ran with it maybe
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a little more than the rest of my
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siblings didn't think about me and one
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of my older sisters is kind of the same
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in that sense and so you know I mean I
15:59
checked in with them but they were
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always just kind of like alright she's
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good she's doing her thing she's finding
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her way um so yeah dude so you got
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married in your 30s yeah and then see
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now I'm trying to build because I know
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now you are mom stepmom and you've got a
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lot of things going on and you know
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speaking of things that we don't expect
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to happen share with us a little bit of
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where all that came into play and just
16:29
the emotions around motherhood that in
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the last you know five years or so has
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kind of struck you yeah
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motherhood changed me in ways I was not
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ready for definitely are not expecting
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maybe maybe that's the better word so I
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think I was ready just not expecting it
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I wasn't ready or expecting so not one
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up on me right word good either
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I was very career-driven and I and again
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like I said very independent so I met my
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husband and thank God he was you know
17:02
very supportive of those things but also
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God sends you exactly who you need right
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because he really helped me to set
17:10
appropriate boundaries I could have
17:13
definitely been a workaholic and there
17:16
is addiction in my family so that runs
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gamut in a lot of different ways and I'd
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even think it could show up in a career
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or in work life so he definitely helped
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me set appropriate boundaries and make
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sure that you know my priorities were in
17:29
check and my my family did come first
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and I wasn't on my laptop all my think
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you know no it's funny the the subject
17:38
of addiction like I
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think that I mean I struggled a lot
17:43
through my own seasons of you know and
17:47
then dick because addictions can come in
17:48
everywhere right so if you look at what
17:50
does it mean is a perpetual habit that
17:52
takes the place of other things that
17:54
maybe you should be doing or that are
17:56
important or that you know what I mean
17:58
so it can be any habit from you know
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people get addicted to drinking water
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they get addicted to exercise all the
18:04
way the sex drugs and rock and roll that
18:06
are destructive but the reality is it
18:08
doesn't matter if it's even a good habit
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if it becomes you know a false idol if
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it becomes something that you truly
18:14
can't step away from when something else
18:17
that's meeting you and is calling to you
18:19
for the greater good is more important I
18:20
mean in a lot of ways it's its massive
18:23
selfishness that you can't set aside
18:25
right and whatever it is for it's just
18:27
the self serving constant desire and
18:30
I've struggled with it myself and my own
18:32
life and I know many people have and I
18:34
think that you know one of the things
18:35
that I'm trying to constantly kind of
18:37
teach my kids is that that idea of
18:39
moderation of recognizing when something
18:42
else has become more important trading
18:44
what you want most for what you want at
18:46
the moment you know what kind of those
18:48
ideas full well knowing that they two
18:50
are going to struggle get up fall down
18:53
learn grow right that's where that space
18:55
happens but I think work in particular
18:58
becomes something I was reading recently
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for mothers that a lot of women you know
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we live in a generation both you and I
19:05
you're younger than me but there's this
19:07
space where it's like get up grow go out
19:11
you know do your gypsy thing get this
19:12
great career contribute to the world and
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then boom mothering well you can't
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accomplish and we we latch so much of
19:19
our identity into that sense of I
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accomplished something right I live
19:24
heard this presentation I earned that
19:25
paycheck I you know got this many things
19:28
written or liked or did or done or I
19:30
looked this way or so there's this
19:32
outward need for that inward validation
19:34
and that worthiness but when you're a
19:36
mom like literally I mean you know
19:39
you've been there right that's like
19:40
getting through the day just feeding
19:42
clothing and watering your own plants in
19:44
your own garden is is it well a the
19:47
world doesn't really necessarily come
19:48
alongside and good job
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ever ever and even in your own home your
19:57
spouse you know full well as wonderful
19:59
as they are even they don't get it they
20:02
don't understand so you go into this
20:03
like lonely spiral and your kids can't
20:06
do it or say it I mean you know my kids
20:08
are just now at that point where they'll
20:09
stop and go thanks mom and they don't
20:11
even recognize how those words just just
20:14
melt my heart I never try to take them
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for granted when they come out and I and
20:18
I oftentimes will sometimes my reaction
20:20
will be welcome or it's about time but I
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always you know what I always do best I
20:24
always try to say you're welcome just in
20:27
a genuine you're welcome move on because
20:29
I think that is they going to feel that
20:31
affirmation of that gratitude but I
20:34
think it's so normal for moms to go into
20:37
that space
20:37
of baby comes in baby needs me but I
20:41
have this kind of conquest of outwardly
20:45
affirmation work something else and I
20:48
think therein lies you know what I've
20:50
often called the mom life crisis of you
20:52
feel like you have a complete reset did
20:55
you experience some of that when
20:57
motherhood started 100% the complete
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reset for sure and mine actually kind of
21:04
went the other way where all of a sudden
21:06
I was like work is not that important I
21:10
kind of don't want to go back ever maybe
21:13
hai-yah like I don't know but right now
21:17
I know that this little baby needs me
21:19
and I cannot fathom handing him to
21:24
someone else to take care of for the day
21:26
and so so yeah that's what I mean I was
21:31
very career minded very I'm going to
21:33
accomplish this by the time I'm 35 and
21:35
this by the time I'm 40 and you know
21:37
retired by 50 and all of these thing and
21:40
have this title and this great business
21:42
and sell this great business and you
21:45
know all these big dreams and then all
21:46
of a sudden I was like but God needs me
21:50
to do this and I read something that
21:53
really stuck with me just in passing I
21:55
can't even remember I think it was maybe
21:56
a mom blog or something that was what if
22:00
your greatest calling is mothering your
22:03
kids yeah
22:04
and I was just like wow okay so now I
22:08
need to be a better mom yes I love it
22:11
one blog and done man it took me like
22:13
seven years of reading those blogs
22:14
feeling bad about myself the same thing
22:17
the next day and expecting a different
22:19
result I'm like wait mottely you said it
22:22
can be defeating right cuz not like okay
22:24
now okay so I want to be a good wife I
22:27
want to be a good mom I need to learn
22:29
what that means while also being a
22:31
stepmom who's a full-time mom because my
22:35
son lives with us full-time so your
22:38
first marriage came with a bonus kid yes
22:41
yes okay and how old was he when you got
22:44
married nine okay so we I mean you know
22:48
I'm a stepmom right so I have three
22:50
stepkids and blending a family has been
22:53
I mean man the motherhood train hits you
22:56
and you fall down you get back up you
22:58
figure it out then the stepmom train
22:59
hits you and I'm still trying to get
23:01
back up from that it's been so
23:03
challenging to manage those emotions the
23:08
goodness in it the joy in it these
23:09
extended family these amazing new kids
23:12
but then the dynamics of I'm not really
23:14
their mom they have a mom and then my
23:17
kids are trying to move through and then
23:18
just kids like one day everything's
23:21
great and they're like you know give me
23:22
a lollipop and a popsicle and the next
23:24
day it's like I'm happy makes me happy
23:26
I'm happy and I got and it's like trying
23:28
to figure out how to help their little
23:30
hearts just grow into their best selves
23:32
when that it feels like a full-time job
23:33
so in step parenting so you have your
23:37
son full-time yes okay and does he do
23:40
you mind telling us the details of that
23:42
like does he see his mom how did he die
23:44
he does somebody go see his mom every
23:46
other weekend and he's going there also
23:49
now on Wednesdays so he does see his mom
23:56
the boundaries are different so there's
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not a lot of co-parenting that happens
24:02:00
so the boundaries are different at our
24:03:00
house you know than they are at her
24:05:00
house which makes it a little bit
24:06:00
challenging and like he said I'm not the
24:09:00
mom so did you want to be I mean was
24:11:00
there a time though that you were like
24:13:00
I'm gonna be mom honestly yes
24:17:00
and I think even more so because he's
24:20:00
with us all the time ya know I was like
24:22:00
okay I'm gonna be I'm gonna be an
24:23:00
awesome way and I'm gonna be an awesome
24:25:00
mom and like I got the family and yes
24:29:00
let's do it
24:30:00
yep and then honestly for like the first
24:34:00
few years it was very easy and and very
24:36:00
natural and I think I probably trapped
24:41:00
like overcompensated almost like that
24:43:00
addictive personality came out again
24:44:00
like yo yo what I'm gonna do
24:46:00
yeah oh my gosh you're talking you're
24:48:00
talking my talk and walking my what I
24:50:00
totally did that for like five or six
24:52:00
years and I feel like now I'm in that
24:53:00
space where I'm like with my head in the
24:55:00
sand was like and all these people I'm
24:57:00
looking around and you know people are
24:58:00
like oh that's so great and I'm like no
25:00:00
we're not gonna end no it's gonna be
25:02:00
great maybe the Brady Bunch and
25:04:00
everybody's always gonna be happy and
25:06:00
they're just gonna happily move back and
25:08:00
forth between families and we're not
25:09:00
gonna have any troubles and and now that
25:12:00
you know they're getting older and some
25:13:00
of their own identity issues and
25:15:00
emotions are kicking it I'm just I'm
25:17:00
struggling to stay in a space of where
25:19:00
I'm like really what is my role like one
25:21:00
day I still want to be the mom and the
25:23:00
next day I just want to be a friend and
25:25:00
then the next day I'm like I'm just
25:26:00
gonna give them their vitamins and stay
25:27:00
out of their way and then the next time
25:29:00
like not giving you anybody means you're
25:31:00
not being nice to me but they and I keep
25:34:00
just being like Lord just okay I just
25:36:00
wanted your peace and grace and
25:37:00
forgiveness which I still need with my
25:39:00
own kids too you know and they need for
25:41:00
me because lord knows I screw up as well
25:42:00
so it's that you know every day figuring
25:45:00
it out moving through and it sounds like
25:47:00
your stepson who you said was 14 now I
25:49:00
might be in that space of back and forth
25:52:00
and I'm not sure and then that you're
25:54:00
right the different rules the different
25:55:00
belief systems yeah and you know
25:57:00
teenagers hit and it does something to a
26:00:00
kid we can remember being a teenager and
26:03:00
going through everything that teenagers
26:05:00
go through so yeah that back hit and I
26:09:00
was like okay stop the freight train
26:13:00
let's figure out exactly like what is
26:16:00
this rule what does this even mean how
26:17:00
does this work and the truth is there is
26:19:00
no answer you know and there's no like
26:22:00
handbook so you really just takes a lot
26:25:00
of Prayer and a lot of patience and
26:27:00
really a lot of communication with my
26:30:00
house
26:31:00
yes which you know also it's hard
26:35:00
sometimes because you you don't know is
26:38:00
it okay to say this oh oh I feel so much
26:45:00
of those same things because it's like I
26:47:00
can't imagine the emotions that they go
26:50:00
through right and their kids and back
26:53:00
and forth and as dads and their roles
26:54:00
and and then having to deal with two
26:56:00
women right I mean that's women can be
26:58:00
women Lee and just emotional and one day
27:01:00
this and you know they try to listen and
27:03:00
be peaceful and patient and you're right
27:05:00
that feeling of like I feel bad saying
27:06:00
this because that's their child in their
27:09:00
situation and then you don't want them
27:10:00
to feel responsible because it's not
27:12:00
their fault right I mean you're just
27:13:00
loving them and I mean for me I'm just
27:16:00
such a like rah say it all when I think
27:19:00
it all and then go oh wait sorry I
27:21:00
didn't really mean that yeah yeah yes so
27:29:00
there's that challenge and then you know
27:31:00
challenging also to seek my younger son
27:35:00
is too and Victor's fourteen so there's
27:37:00
a big gap you know that's like a lot of
27:40:00
difference and a lot of even just you
27:42:00
know appropriate boundaries for
27:44:00
appropriate ages yeah and learning how
27:47:00
to balance that in a house without one
27:49:00
feeling like you know what is favored
27:53:00
over over n0 did you know that you were
27:56:00
still gonna want to have your own kids
27:57:00
after you got married and Zeke came
28:00:00
along and all that good stuff
28:02:00
uh yes we I always wanted to have kids I
28:05:00
always knew I would have kids I didn't
28:07:00
know honestly if I would have my own
28:09:00
kids or if I would end up adopting or if
28:12:00
me Manny and I actually also went
28:14:00
through foster parent training so we
28:16:00
just prayed a lot about kind of you know
28:18:00
what God had for us and I went through
28:22:00
some struggles like getting pregnant but
28:23:00
it was a real blessing and miracle that
28:26:00
I have a feeling that God has more
28:28:00
children
28:30:00
for you somewhere somehow I mean just
28:33:00
hearing your heart for foster and adopt
28:36:00
a ax and I'm just saying I'm looking at
28:39:00
the writing on the wall and the
28:40:00
brightness telling me that you all
28:41:00
better get some more bedrooms huge heart
28:45:00
for that and Mandy goes to my husband
28:47:00
does too so yeah we'll see we stay open
28:51:00
and try to be obedient right that's
28:53:00
absolutely open to whatever you're
28:55:00
you're called to you that day so let's
28:57:00
talk a little bit more about so you've
29:00:00
got Zia coos - you've got so he is are
29:04:00
you still are you home with him he's not
29:06:00
in preschool yet so are you still trying
29:08:00
to juggle balance work where has that
29:10:00
settled it for you now that yeah so Zika
29:13:00
actually does go to a preschool he goes
29:15:00
to an amazing Christian preschool here
29:18:00
that starts at two so he's - he's two
29:22:00
and a half he's in preschool and he's
29:24:00
got a love-hate relationship with there
29:29:00
he hates it in the morning when he has
29:30:00
to get ready so he goes just in the
29:33:00
mornings everyday in the morning for
29:35:00
from eight to twelve so I am really
29:39:00
focused on my recent results business
29:41:00
and The Sisterhood of Christian
29:44:00
entrepreneurs group and I jammed
29:47:00
so much as I can into those four hours
29:51:00
we also have our wonderful nanny who
29:53:00
helps one day a week so she's actually
29:55:00
here today just to give a little bit
29:58:00
more time and flexibility you know for
30:01:00
meetings and running those businesses
30:02:00
and then the rest of the time is me
30:05:00
being a mom and I've really learned that
30:07:00
I have to be you know very present again
30:10:00
my priorities are my face first my
30:14:00
family and then fitness which is you
30:16:00
know my business and my passion so I
30:18:00
have in that order and I have to make
30:22:00
sure that you know I just live by that
30:24:00
in my calendar - I love that you're
30:26:00
talking about schedule because I am
30:28:00
constantly telling my clients and
30:30:00
anybody that I'm working with I'm like
30:31:00
look you are going to set yourself up
30:33:00
for failure if you feel like you can
30:36:00
just work whenever it's convenient right
30:38:00
Oh baby sleepy and I'll do this okay I
30:39:00
like I love that you're like oh I've got
30:42:00
these hours at preschool and I
30:43:00
these hours when the nanny's here and
30:45:00
you're being totally transparent and
30:46:00
when you're not sometimes it's even easy
30:48:00
when I mean for me it took me about
30:50:00
eighteen months maybe two years to get
30:53:00
that away from that feeling that okay
30:54:00
the kids are busy like they're having
30:56:00
some downtime or they're outside or
30:58:00
maybe they're watching a show I could
31:00:00
probably sneak off and do like a half an
31:02:00
hour of work where I could probably and
31:03:00
what I would always find death is that
31:05:00
as soon as the kids interrupted me while
31:08:00
I was doing work I was like monster mom
31:10:00
where I was short-tempered I was
31:12:00
frustrated and they're just like I just
31:14:00
wanted to let you know that I spilt my
31:16:00
water I'm sorry and you know and I feel
31:18:00
horrible so I really had to learn and
31:20:00
this was hard to just when they were
31:23:00
busy to go I'm gonna do Andriy I'm gonna
31:25:00
clean my own room I'm gonna work on a
31:27:00
project around the house I'm gonna sweep
31:29:00
I'm gonna organize the calendar is
31:31:00
something something in my home in even
31:34:00
that downtime because if I was doing
31:36:00
that I don't mind at all if they
31:37:00
interrupt me while I'm folding socks I'm
31:39:00
like great but it's like we what we
31:42:00
talked about in the beginning of that
31:44:00
that me and that consumption of my
31:47:00
career and what I need to do and even if
31:49:00
we feel like our career is purposeful
31:51:00
and we're helping others there still
31:52:00
it's validating it's giving us something
31:55:00
our ego is being is being talked to and
31:57:00
fed when we're in that space versus in
32:00:00
that mothering and that home care and
32:02:00
you know it's it's constant you just are
32:05:00
in that space of giving like I'm
32:06:00
prepared to give I'm like I always say
32:08:00
I'm like I'm in my trampoline mode you
32:10:00
come and we're just gonna keep going on
32:11:00
we're gonna bounce off versus my like
32:13:00
clicks and yes and you feel I feel
32:16:00
better about it I'm sure you do too I
32:18:00
feel better about the work I
32:19:00
accomplished in a day as a mom and as
32:22:00
you know a business owner and for the
32:25:00
people that I'm helping you know build
32:27:00
their businesses with recess and results
32:29:00
and it's just and everyone knows my
32:32:00
priorities so there's no question about
32:34:00
why I didn't answer a text or why it
32:36:00
took me a day to get back to an email
32:38:00
yeah that is Crito I just want to point
32:42:00
on that for a second because I think
32:43:00
anyone who's listening who is
32:45:00
considering starting a business or
32:46:00
wanting to do something outside their
32:48:00
home or in the workforce I love what
32:50:00
there's a lot in what you said everyone
32:52:00
knows I think as moms we can't be afraid
32:54:00
to say to the people that we work with
32:57:00
these are my priorities like and it's
32:59:00
not gonna change and as soon as you
33:01:00
begin a relationship with them I'm
33:03:00
always saying start as you mean to go if
33:05:00
you don't want to answer emails 11
33:06:00
o'clock at night
33:07:00
then quit answering emails don't even
33:09:00
turn on your email right leave your
33:10:00
laptop in your office don't be afraid to
33:13:00
respond with my kids need me right now I
33:15:00
just won't be there
33:16:00
I'm recanting that you know because then
33:18:00
people do begin to just expect she's
33:20:00
probably not around because it's you
33:21:00
know 4:30 and that's in the middle of
33:23:00
the after school routine or and then you
33:25:00
do remove some of that feeling because
33:27:00
it's hard to not want to please right so
33:30:00
all the time anybody anybody that needs
33:32:00
you your work your family your friends
33:34:00
your parents your kids and it kind of
33:36:00
just eliminates when people understand
33:38:00
your priorities and you're living them
33:40:00
out there matching your actions you're
33:41:00
not answering the phone at 4:30 and
33:43:00
going I can't talk right now
33:45:00
they don't pick up the phone I was
33:48:00
teasing you gather down like your
33:50:00
voicemail is always full but yet I am
33:52:00
maybe my voicemail should be full more
33:56:00
for me right now I'm sorry I loved it I
34:00:00
loved it I'll have to check yeah I I
34:03:00
would love to hear so we talked a little
34:05:00
bit about the farm girl in Nebraska how
34:08:00
we ended up work it sounds like you're
34:10:00
still trying to kind of live out some of
34:14:00
your kind of callings outside your house
34:15:00
with recess and results with the sister
34:17:00
of Christian entrepreneurs which is
34:18:00
amazing you're doing it in a way that
34:20:00
aligns your priorities I love that
34:22:00
that's one of the biggest takeaways from
34:23:00
our conversation is setting your
34:25:00
priorities and sticking with them you
34:27:00
can't be all things to all people at all
34:29:00
times where are you feeling like what
34:32:00
are some of your goals right now like
34:33:00
where are you aspiring to where maybe
34:35:00
some areas that that's been showing you
34:38:00
need some work that you need just dig in
34:40:00
or step back like what do you feel like
34:43:00
the next year might hold for you well
34:45:00
the next year will bring another baby
34:47:00
family do in November how did I miss
34:50:00
that
34:52:00
luckily on social media I feel like I
34:56:00
have um so doing November like
34:59:00
Thanksgiving time so we'll bring another
35:02:00
baby which will bring a whole new
35:05:00
just met right I'm a new normal and get
35:09:00
used to get used to that which is very
35:12:00
exciting I have a Thanksgiving baby
35:15:00
November 25th and he's I told that in
35:22:00
the beginning that my little guy came
35:24:00
home from school early today a little
35:26:00
bit of a tummy ache and if he needed me
35:28:00
that we might have to take a break you
35:29:00
need me are you okay oh he's awake but
35:35:00
you know what good news I'm actually
35:36:00
just wrapping up we had like 10 more
35:37:00
minutes that blanket looks so cozy
35:41:00
grandma made it yes yeah and his
35:44:00
birthday is November 25th looks like
35:46:00
you're feeling a little better nice bar
35:50:00
on Thanksgiving I ate turkey in the
35:51:00
hospital like the cafeteria turkey
35:53:00
mashed potatoes and gravy watch the
35:54:00
Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade cried
35:57:00
because you know you always cry for like
35:58:00
the first three months after you have a
36:00:00
baby for no reason at all okay I'll be
36:08:00
right out thanks sweetie for saying hi I
36:12:00
am he's he's my youngest oh my goodness
36:16:00
so I can't believe you're having another
36:17:00
one okay so November another baby's
36:19:00
coming so do you think you'll probably
36:21:00
step back for a while do you have are
36:22:00
you working now to take that time away I
36:24:00
am and recess end result is also in
36:28:00
partnership with my sister so we have
36:31:00
that kind of backup but yes I'm
36:35:00
definitely gonna take you know maternity
36:37:00
leave which I would love if America's
36:40:00
maternity leave was like a year like in
36:42:00
Europe amazing but I love also that a
36:47:00
lot of what I do I can bring my baby
36:49:00
with me so I'm going to be focusing more
36:51:00
on our mom and me program in the next
36:53:00
year which allows me to take the baby
36:56:00
with me when I teach and teach them on
36:59:00
you know times that work for me and then
37:02:00
yeah we'll figure out the baby's
37:03:00
schedule and have to readjust the
37:05:00
calendar to make yes I love that you
37:07:00
know that you're gonna have to do that
37:08:00
we got a puppy recently and my oldest he
37:11:00
was just he was killing me because he
37:13:00
was like he came out one day and he was
37:15:00
like I just thought that the puppy would
37:17:00
just like go along with us
37:19:00
do what we need to but I feel like I
37:20:00
have to change my life or what the puppy
37:21:00
needs I'm like not saying a word
37:26:00
preparation for parenting someday you do
37:29:00
and I love that you know that and you're
37:31:00
gonna be open and flexible and I think
37:35:00
one of greatest things that I've heard
37:36:00
in our conversation is you know know who
37:39:00
you are what's most important you do not
37:41:00
flex your priorities and that comes
37:42:00
across in those moments where you're
37:45:00
choosing between like you said church or
37:47:00
something else going on you're
37:49:00
absolutely that morning devotion time
37:50:00
versus digging into work you're choosing
37:53:00
that date night instead of you know I'm
37:55:00
going on with my girlfriends right like
37:56:00
there's just there's no going out with
37:59:00
girlfriends when you have a two-year old
38:06:00
girlfriends has gone out I know it's
38:09:00
good and you know what you know that you
38:11:00
have good girlfriends when they're like
38:12:00
I'm with you sister I'll send you a text
38:14:00
so hey how are you miss you and all as
38:16:00
well and just you keep on moving and
38:19:00
it's totally well and I found that I
38:21:00
would try to go out because I thought I
38:22:00
was supposed to go out because you see
38:24:00
all this stuff it's like oh mom you have
38:26:00
to take care of yourself and go out and
38:28:00
relax but I would get out and just want
38:30:00
to be home yeah honestly I will say one
38:34:00
thing I've learned it you know it
38:35:00
through mom hood is it does take a
38:37:00
village it takes a village and you need
38:39:00
your people you know to support you and
38:41:00
be around you and you know whether
38:44:00
that's a mops group or your neighbor you
38:48:00
know your family if you're blessed to
38:50:00
have them living close to you but you
38:53:00
definitely need a village and that's
38:54:00
another thing I want to really focus on
38:56:00
in the coming year is just continuing to
38:58:00
build that because with a virtual
39:00:00
business and working you know in in
39:04:00
positions that were so virtual prior I
39:06:00
was home a lot and I really feel like
39:09:00
this is a great season I was interacting
39:11:00
with a lot of people from everywhere but
39:13:00
this is a great season for me to be very
39:15:00
in tune with my community and really
39:17:00
kind of plant myself here and I feel
39:20:00
like that has really started kind of
39:22:00
unfolding that and letting that blossom
39:24:00
in the last few months and it's such an
39:26:00
amazing feeling so I'm excited for that
39:28:00
to continue - oh I love that I love
39:30:00
you're just hope and joy and excitement
39:32:00
you
39:32:00
know that the valleys are gonna come and
39:34:00
you're gonna ride them out and stay
39:36:00
strong in your faith because it's always
39:37:00
what pushes us through and we know that
39:39:00
and I don't know why at least for me I
39:41:00
had to try so many other things before I
39:43:00
was like you know the best situation
39:47:00
always comes around when I just pray and
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talk to jail and stay calm and work my
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way through I don't know why I keep
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thinking that oh you know this time if I
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exercise more if I drink more if I eat
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more if I am with this person if I look
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that way then I don't feel better then I
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feel better and these things that we try
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in life until we stop and go huh all
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right right here open the word
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everything you need I love that about
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yeah and if you can truly learn to
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listen and hear you know your purpose
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and and God guiding you back I mean it
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opens a whole new worlds for you and
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that's when you really start to feel
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true success amen amen
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okay so my last question for you is what
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is float in your mom boat right now so
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what that means is like what new thing
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have you discovered it's a grocery store
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that you can't get enough of book that
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you're reading blog that you're
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subscribing to you I don't know a new
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razor that you're just like oh my gosh
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this cuts my shaving time enough like
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what do you got anything what is
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floating my mom boat I would say two
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things the mops group that I recently
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joined I don't know you've never been a
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part of mops but it's awesome
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he's just like such hearty moms and mops
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is because for a long time I was like
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mops like okay so it's like a house
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cleaning like out what do we get
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together and we learn how to mop like
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what is it there we go mom's a
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preschoolers it is a Christian based
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organization and it's just moms I mean
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they just come together me a breakfast
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and we talk about mom's stuff and then
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everyone goes home and it's simple and
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awesome and something like that at the
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church slash school where my boys go to
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school and it's like on Thursday
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mornings and I do I love it and to be
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honest one of the first few times I went
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is because they had the most killer
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oatmeal bar like ever and it was like
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I'm totally going for the oatmeal bar
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and then I was like I'm sorry god no I'm
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not yes I am so true I was like you know
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what I can sit down and eat and see kids
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at school and know
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one is asking me friend yeah yeah and I
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just you beloved and carry over with
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other moms who get you it's your people
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it's your village yep yes so that is
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really floating my mumble and I would
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encourage any mom to find a group like
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that doesn't have to be mops but again
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like your village is so important do not
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underestimate that and then there is a
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blog that I really love called the
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better mom which I've been following and
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the read and just given like little
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snippets from there but a face to face
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time at mops is really what awesome
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alright so find a village get some
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people you've been reading the better
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mom do they have a podcast I wonder if
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they have a podcast I've been I've been
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walking the dog and I finally recently I
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was resentful at walking the dog and
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then I was like if I just start
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listening to podcasts now I get back
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from walking the dog and I'm all like
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jazzed up and inspired because I've
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found these great podcasts to listen to
42:40:00
you so one that I love to that I know
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you would love is called mom struggling
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well okay yeah it's Emily Thomas I think
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is your last name and oh my goodness
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really good I share it sometimes on my
42:52:00
Facebook page so on my juice box mom
42:54:00
page oh yeah mom struggling well just
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funny witty all kinds of topics all over
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the map so she's great so check her out
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- so you want other book I just read for
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the love oh so funny axe I need to look
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right it's a great mom read sorry never
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admired that you read because mom read
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is an oxymoron to me yeah read when I
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know I know it's hard to find time for
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sure but it's a great Christian book and
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it was funny and light-hearted but also
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gave really great insight and yes for
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the love well thank you Beth thank you
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for taking time I'm gonna wrap up so I
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can go snuggle and check in and probably
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make some chicken little soup for my
43:40:00
little guy oh yeah I'll be prank you
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feel better so thank you and I'm so
43:44:00
grateful that the rest of my day is
43:46:00
clear so he and I will just do what we
43:48:00
do it'll be great and that's why we take
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all the risk so we can have the rewards
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of yep
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I'll be right there to pick up that's
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where yeah
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it's me Beth god bless you I hope I get
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to see you in February we will keep in
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touch over on and I do too
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yes god bless you also and we'll talk
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soon all right take care of yourself bye
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[Music]
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are here and this is now and this is
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what God has brought to you and what he
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needs you to do I'm such a believer that
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what needs you in his story and in your
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life it's gonna find you and it's not
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gonna knock once it's not going twice
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it's gonna keep knocking until you
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answer the door and if you just open the
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door and let it in and love it which is
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all he's asked us to do with anything
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anyway he brings us if you just open the
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door let it in and love it so much
42:29:00
blossom so much frozen all of a sudden
42:31:00
you picked your head up and you're in
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this huge field of sunflowers like I was
42:36:00
so busy planting all these and then you
42:37:00
go oh wow and then you just you just get
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back to planting the one you're at and
42:41:00
when you're on and you look around and
42:43:00
and there's so much beauty and
42:45:00
magnificent and and when you get to that
42:48:00
spot where the soil is hard and the Sun
42:50:00
has gone away you can still look up and
42:52:00
know you're in a field of sunflowers and
42:54:00
I mean if this this feeling of looking
42:57:00
back at knowing that and I think that
42:58:00
the encouragement that you would bring
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to a mom who might be in that place like
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you and I were of that darkness of that
43:05:00
just going through the motion
43:07:00
not what I expected not what I needed
43:09:00
faith-filled or otherwise you know just
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feeling that space of like I don't
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understand and the encouragement in your
43:15:00
story of hang on there's something more
43:17:00
there's something immeasurably more and
43:20:00
better coming what advice would you give
43:23:00
a mom who might be considering going
43:24:00
into a direct sales program who's
43:26:00
working right now maybe in that forty
43:27:00
over a week job what are a couple of
43:29:00
tips that you would say as she's
43:31:00
considering a transition like that sure
43:34:00
I would say well I mean if you feel like
43:40:00
it's using you're being led to that
43:42:00
definitely take a look
43:43:00
I think there's we always have these
43:45:00
what ifs right what if I fail what if
43:47:00
it's too hard what if I can't do it just
43:51:00
trust yourself to know that you probably
43:53:00
can okay and it's very it's not a hard
43:56:00
business it's a pretty simple business
43:57:00
make sure that you are teamed up with an
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awesome leader with a wonderful team of
44:02:00
men and women that can help you and lead
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you and guide you because I think that
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that is very very powerful place rapes
44:10:00
we just need that inspiration we need
44:13:00
those resources we need somebody that's
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already walks the path well and I think
44:18:00
also I'm here I am telling you what your
44:20:00
advice should be but I notice I mean I
44:22:00
see a lot of direct sales I mean I have
44:24:00
friends that are in this and one of the
44:26:00
things that I see is the different
44:28:00
styles because I see them in my facebook
44:30:00
feed and I see the way people approach
44:32:00
it and you know look at this is finding
44:34:00
someone who is genuinely motivated by
44:37:00
the same things as you so if they're
44:39:00
encouraging you to join your team so
44:41:00
that you can have more time with your
44:42:00
family
44:43:00
but then the first day you say to them
44:45:00
or you consider saying I can't be at
44:47:00
that meeting my kids have something
44:49:00
going on and they freak out they're not
44:51:00
motivated by the same things as you so
44:53:00
if their posts are all look how much
44:55:00
money you can make look at all the free
44:57:00
product you can get look at the travel
44:59:00
you can have or you know I mean and if
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that's what motivates you then that's
45:03:00
the space that you're in for whatever is
45:05:00
happening in the circumstance of your
45:06:00
life but genuinely looking into if
45:09:00
you're saying this is what I'm gonna get
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but as soon as I say that's important to
45:13:00
me and I need it that doesn't match it
45:14:00
like you see where I mean like I
45:16:00
sometimes
45:17:00
these carrots that are being thrown out
45:18:00
and then people grab on and then you're
45:21:00
like just kidding actually you have to
45:22:00
make some money I mean there's like this
45:24:00
space you know the honesty and the
45:26:00
transparency behind it all yes yeah I
45:29:00
love that I agree with that
45:30:00
wholeheartedly because yeah I mean it
45:34:00
ultimately is your business like right
45:36:00
you get to decide what that looks like
45:37:00
if you want it to look like you want to
45:39:00
work a few hours a week perfect if you
45:41:00
want to you know work 20 hours a week
45:43:00
create whatever you want I love that I
45:45:00
think it is it is about you and it
45:47:00
should always be about you and what you
45:50:00
want out of whatever it is that you're
45:51:00
doing absolutely yeah so last question
45:53:00
before we wrap up what is floating your
45:56:00
mom boat right now so meaning we know
45:59:00
you love iced tea are you reading any
46:00:00
books that you can't put down have you
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recently discovered an approach to
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parenting that's like rocking your world
46:06:00
and getting your kid to change his
46:08:00
underwear daily and clean his room you
46:10:00
know like what is something going on
46:13:00
your marriage that's like yeah we should
46:15:00
have done this before I mean what's
46:16:00
going on it's just awesome right now and
46:18:00
good that you're learning and growing in
46:21:00
um that's question I think it comes to
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all stuff that we've talked about God is
46:29:00
just saying girl you got to trust me and
46:32:00
that's in every single thing it is and
46:36:00
so that's just been the place that I've
46:39:00
been in designed as a teacher so he's
46:41:00
been home a lot this summer and we've
46:43:00
all been together and that has been
46:44:00
wonderful but sometimes challenging it
46:48:00
has not the battle I think gods they
46:49:00
know more it's just that I think that's
46:54:00
what's rock and my mom boat is just like
46:56:00
finding the joy and trusting him and
46:58:00
honestly I maybe have had such a
47:00:00
fabulous time together we've just you
47:04:00
can't always be outside so we just been
47:06:00
doing a lot of playing tennis together
47:07:00
and bike rides and walking and just
47:09:00
getting out and moving and just enjoying
47:11:00
life together it's we need more of those
47:14:00
really simple moments I'm all about
47:16:00
simplicity I really really am so awesome
47:18:00
yeah awesome thank you Thank You Jenn I
47:20:00
love what you shared great encouragement
47:23:00
for moms through many of what they're
47:25:00
you know embarking upon the reality
47:28:00
between what you say
47:29:00
you feel what actually happens life
47:31:00
rarely goes according to plan yes thank
47:34:00
God for that
47:35:00
right my fear my plan was not gonna go
47:39:00
anywhere good so I'll just go ahead and
47:41:00
take this one so thank you Dad I
47:43:00
appreciate your time and best of luck
47:46:00
with Rodan and fields and everything
47:47:00
you're doing I mean it looks like
47:49:00
correct amazing I love seeing you
47:51:00
growing in it and thriving in it and
47:53:00
I'll definitely make sure to share a
47:54:00
little bit more about who you are and
47:56:00
what you're up to when this goes live
47:58:00
which will probably be in just a couple
47:59:00
weeks not too long I can't wait and
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Thank You Manny for reaching now I just
48:03:00
I love your spirit I love your hearts
48:05:00
for people for moms for children for the
48:08:00
Lord I just am so blessed by you and
48:10:00
like I said you were unit said we just
48:13:00
met recently this year but I I feel like
48:16:00
I've known you for years so I look
48:17:00
forward to being able to chat and just
48:20:00
yeah me too and I can't wait to hug you
48:22:00
and Elijah at school next year all right
48:25:00
girl thank you thank you every day
48:28:00
take care

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hello hello and welcome to another
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episode of the juice box mom's show I am
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talking with my beautiful friend Beth
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who's in Florida who recently was
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affected by some of the hurricanes there
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a little bit we were visiting just a
0:13
minute ago about how much that really
0:15
makes you appreciate like what you have
0:18
and how spoiled we are and I'm just so
0:21
happy to see your beautiful face and we
0:22
were supposed to get together a few
0:24
weeks ago I know and we weren't able to
0:27
but we've rescheduled the event so I'm
0:30
excited that the The Sisterhood
0:32
entrepreneurs event can hopefully pull
0:34
off in February and we'll get to hug
0:35
there's something about hugging friends
0:38
isn't that true that you only see so
0:41
true face-to-face interaction and
0:43
communication is like a lost art form I
0:45
feel like and it's so powerful and just
0:49
so heartwarming but yes I'm really
0:53
excited I'm excited for the retreat and
0:55
just in general in life I feel like
0:56
that's a lesson I've learned this
0:58
weekend it's only Tuesday on Tuesday and
1:01
you've already got a lesson but the
1:03
lesson I've learned this week or may be
1:05
a good reminder that just face-to-face
1:07
is always better always better what you
1:09
know whatever the topic of conversation
1:12
if you can do it face to face
1:14
or alive in some way sea which is why we
1:18
have video in all of our juicebox
1:19
podcast and today since you know I know
1:22
that you have like an athletic side to
1:24
your business I purposely like I totally
1:26
dressed for the part today and I didn't
1:28
make up and I haven't worked out yet so
1:31
I had like my Richard Simmons Jazzercise
1:33
band going on I love it so I was totally
1:36
only that for that reason I had nothing
1:38
to do with not having time because I
1:39
made my children microwave their browse
1:40
of course moms always have more time
1:43
than we know what to do with absolutely
1:46
there's a plethora so but I start all of
1:49
my interviews with what I call a prohm
1:52
so it's a prayer and a poem that I kind
1:55
of put together and so I just ask God to
1:57
guide our conversation and to be with us
1:59
and you know me I just believe that he
2:01
is in the middle of anything that is
2:04
powerful and passionate and worthwhile
2:06
he said and he wants to be part of so I
2:08
wrote a little chrome for you and
2:09
they're usually a little fun and
2:11
everything so are you ready
2:12
okay yeah don't get super excited I know
2:15
like Shelley silverstein or anything
2:18
okay Beth and I met getting her business
2:22
all set so that she could help many more
2:25
kids learn to sweat but now he's become
2:28
more since we both love the Lord and he
2:30
always makes sure that we never get
2:32
bored right for Beth and thank you for
2:39
our time together and I just pray a
2:40
blessing over you and your family and
2:42
our conversation and any mama who's out
2:44
there listening today that these words
2:45
just fall on her heart and her soul and
2:47
help her move towards acceptance of her
2:50
Worth and her children and her family
2:52
and her work and any and everything that
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he's purposed for her amen and
2:56
hallelujah amen so Beth tell us a little
2:59
bit just give us your like three
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sentence Who am I story
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who's better in sentences now you just
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you you wasted one on correcting the
3:08
three sentences I am first and foremost
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a child of God I am a wife a boy mom and
3:17
an entrepreneur and I love my faith my
3:22
family and fitness in that order that's
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right that's C so I had in my pro I'm
3:27
sure people were like what why are
3:29
children sweating with this woman that's
3:32
how we met was you were doing
3:34
recess results and you had a whole bunch
3:37
of really cool stuff going on and you'd
3:39
created kind of this chain of helping
3:42
I'm going into schools and helping moms
3:45
or anyone who wanted to kind of create a
3:47
play program for kids and it was super
3:49
fabulous and now we know each other
3:51
through The Sisterhood of Christian
3:53
entrepreneurs and all the great work
3:54
that you're doing there so what I like
3:56
to do a juice box is kind of just do I
3:59
always say past present future so the
4:02
purpose of the podcast is really to help
4:04
moms like relate to other moms and their
4:06
stories and their journey and
4:08
understanding that we all have unmet
4:10
expectations at some point in time right
4:12
so we thought life was gonna go one
4:14
direction we had all figured out
4:16
usually most of us moms especially that
4:19
are entrepreneurs we take off in our
4:20
career and we have all these great
4:21
things to aspire to and what's the
4:23
opposite of being a mom
4:25
productivity so the reality is it's like
4:29
we get outsider I know it is and we get
4:32
all excited and then we're like oh my
4:33
gosh I can't do anything but keep these
4:35
children alive and so we go kind of
4:38
through this transition and this
4:39
metamorphosis of them recognizing that
4:41
you get to keep these children alive
4:44
right like you get this huge role in
4:45
your life but meanwhile there's kind of
4:47
this push-pull and so I think so much of
4:50
that is indicative of where we came from
4:52
and where we started so tell us a little
4:54
bit about just kind of growing up what
4:56
your mom was like what you know your
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ideas of motherhood work so I grew up on
5:01
a farm in the breasts God did not expect
5:04
the farm in Nebraska oh that always
5:08
surprises so many people I did I grew up
5:11
on a farm in Nebraska I went to a very
5:14
small school there were eight people in
5:16
my class all the way through eighth
5:18
grade and in high school I had 65 so
5:23
still very very small I I went to what I
5:27
call the farm kids school and it was
5:29
awesome and you know I knew the same
5:34
people growing up like everyone knew
5:36
everyone everyone's family knew everyone
5:37
that's kind of how I how I was raised
5:39
my dad was a farmer so an entrepreneur
5:43
you know in that sense and my mom stayed
5:45
at home for the most part until we were
5:48
older and then she started working a
5:51
little bit also outside of the home
5:53
actually in a school so we I guess like
5:58
my early picture of mom hood or what my
6:02
mom was like was that I really was like
6:06
wow I mean she's my mom raised six kids
6:09
I was number five of six oh my goodness
6:12
no I kind of learned that my mom was a
6:16
great delegator because I had older
6:18
siblings too you know and my soul so
6:21
let's talk about the farm for a second
6:22
so when you start delicate like I'm
6:24
still like totally best engels little
6:27
house like yeah like horses aprons like
6:30
milk and the cat I mean was that like
6:32
literally your life like you did but
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when I say
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was a great delegator she was like okay
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you know you're gonna go feed the
6:39
chickens you're gonna go and feed the
6:41
cattle you're gonna give this baby cow
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whose mom died a bottle
6:45
you're gonna go mow the lawn and you're
6:50
gonna do the garden you know like
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everything all things farm yes that was
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my life's not about you oh my gosh okay
6:59
yeah so mom delegated so you were like
7:02
when I become a mom I'm gonna delegate
7:05
sort of I mean we lived by chores we
7:08
really lived by chores and we learned a
7:10
lot of responsibility and work ethic
7:12
through chores now my dad had a little
7:15
more of a playful side so my dad was
7:17
very work hard play hard kind of guy but
7:21
you don't get a do one with about the
7:23
other kind of things oh it was it was
7:25
really good to learn that balance but
7:28
man you know Sam came really early but
7:34
there was just there was always
7:35
something to be done so okay dad you
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said dad was playful so was mom a little
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was she the disciplinarian a little more
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firm like who took on those roles yeah
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my mom was a little more it's so funny
7:48
because my mom was a little more firm
7:51
but we were more worried about my dad
7:55
being disappointed though it was a bad
7:58
cop yes yes I'm sure
8:01
and my dad was definitely the one that
8:03
let us have a little more fun and gave
8:04
us a little more rope you know and yeah
8:08
my mom was definitely more strict we
8:11
also grew up very religious we went to
8:13
church every Sunday it was just
8:15
something we did not miss it didn't
8:17
matter if you weren't feeling well you
8:19
were tired didn't matter and we went to
8:22
church every Sunday which is something I
8:24
really appreciate you know that they
8:26
instilled in us yeah absolutely
8:28
okay so how did you go from Nebraska so
8:32
you grew up on the farm up early milking
8:35
the cows counting the eggs and then to
8:38
where you are so you finish high school
8:40
and then what did you go on to college
8:42
as you want to have a degree a career or
8:45
did you aspire to
8:47
my Ingles like where Joe I always like
8:52
get me on the fastest horse out of here
8:54
yeah like there is more than this out
8:57
there what is it let me find out I don't
9:00
know let me explore there's something a
9:02
lifetime movie like you know that leaves
9:04
the farm and yeah okay totally yeah so I
9:08
left after high school and I went to I
9:11
started nursing school actually one of
9:13
the things about growing up in a small
9:14
town in Nebraska that at least for me
9:17
from my perspective is you don't really
9:18
know what's out there
9:19
so as a as a Nebraska farm girl I was
9:22
like okay if I don't want to be a
9:24
farmer's wife yeah I can be a nurse or I
9:27
could be a teacher and was that kind of
9:32
when it stopped like there was no
9:35
astrophysics Scientology surgery yeah I
9:40
kind of didn't know what else was her
9:42
service you know what though that's
9:43
probably some indicative of your faith
9:45
because you know our faith very clearly
9:49
reminds us that acts of service are
9:52
where our true joy is and especially as
9:55
women nurturers moms and it is until we
9:58
get out and see other places that we can
10:00
serve in careers with numbers and math
10:03
and all kinds of things but when we
10:04
don't know that yet acts of service are
10:07
carrying genuinely for the well being
10:09
like the literal well-being of others
10:10
teaching nothing those are very very
10:13
sadly trades that I think are are losing
10:16
they fall to the bottom of the pile
10:17
they're not paid enough and I appreciate
10:19
it
10:20
that's because usually they're done by
10:21
people that are just so grateful to be
10:23
doing them right yeah true yeah so any
10:26
health care profession I mean nursing
10:28
you know doctor any any work in a
10:31
hospital or doctor's office kind of
10:32
thing was what I was like all right I
10:34
guess this is my ticket out of here and
10:35
at that time I was like travel nursing
10:38
great I'll do that and then we'll go
10:40
around and I'll kind of learn like see
10:42
the world and perfect so student loan
10:45
forgiveness the whole thing so I went to
10:49
I started nursing school and quickly
10:52
realized as you've said that it takes a
10:54
very special type of person to be a
10:56
nurse and that if I didn't fully love it
10:58
with every ounce of my being I would not
11:00
do
11:00
anyone a good service by staying in that
11:04
profession so I changed my major to
11:07
health fitness to be on the preventative
11:10
side of things and I moved to Washington
11:12
DC to finish school so it looked like my
11:16
first delete bug here I go
11:19
I love how this all likely like our
11:22
stories are so there's these spaces and
11:25
the cool thing is is that to look at you
11:27
know growing up on a farm and then
11:29
you're like okay and now health fit like
11:30
where and but you see the connection you
11:33
see the easy flow and the link between
11:35
well into nursing and caring and then
11:38
nursing roles into fitness and health
11:40
fitness and preventive care and you know
11:43
and nothing is wasted like every single
11:45
thing that we do connects the chain and
11:48
the link and the story and it solidifies
11:50
this foundation with which we do the
11:52
next thing and it makes me feel sad
11:54
sometimes when I talk to moms or women
11:57
who are like I just spent all these
11:58
years like chasing this dream and a
12:00
little bit you know people ask me that
12:01
about my boogie wife's story all the
12:02
time like oh my gosh you lost all these
12:04
years of your life I'm like no no no let
12:06
me just tell you how much is good now
12:08
because of what was bad then right yeah
12:11
decided was was bad or challenging then
12:13
so I love just listening to that flow of
12:16
you know the chicken farmers daughter
12:18
all the way to see ya to say my parents
12:24
really played a big part in that too
12:26
because they never let us be lazy I
12:30
guess I mean not only did we always have
12:32
chores to do but it's like work was done
12:34
it was go play outside
12:35
there was no sitting in front of a TV we
12:38
had 6 kids so we couldn't afford
12:39
electronics there was no you know there
12:43
was no playing Nintendo all day so we
12:46
had to be creative when we played
12:47
outside and we made them games and we
12:49
played with our siblings because we
12:50
didn't have neighbors oh it was I love
12:53
it and now it's like I mean the other
12:56
day and it was like the street light it
12:58
was like going on it was like this is
13:00
how I used to know what it was time to
13:01
go home right let's came on that was
13:03
like your curfew and it's so true about
13:06
and you know we could probably have a
13:08
whole other podcast about electronics
13:09
and playing outside and and and
13:11
everybody's on I see the value of both
13:12
of it as much
13:14
for quite a while wanted to fight the
13:15
electronics and label them as bad I
13:17
really learned that my role as a mom is
13:19
actually to teach my children how to use
13:21
them responsibly and in a positive way
13:23
and God's kingdom because you know what
13:26
he's allowing them for a reason there's
13:28
a connectivity aspect to them that is
13:30
really important right now and an aspect
13:33
empathy and understanding what others
13:35
are going through because the greater
13:37
the just the the evil and the sadness
13:40
and the destruction in the world the
13:42
more we need to see that and pray over
13:44
that and care about that and that's
13:45
really something that that electronics
13:47
aspect does allow us to do now sitting
13:50
mindlessly in gaming is a whole nother
13:51
conversation but my point being you know
13:53
I've gotten on board to the fact that
13:56
you know I have kids that want Instagram
13:58
and snapchat and all those kinds of
14:01
things I've recently figured out that my
14:02
teenagers love languages snapchat
14:05
literally he will just like communicate
14:07
to me during the day and it's kind of I
14:09
almost feel like just his way of being
14:10
like I'm thinking of you and it's a
14:11
random like you know snapchat silly but
14:14
it's important and so I got snapchat and
14:16
I figured it out and you know but the
14:19
plane outside there's really I mean just
14:21
a fresh hair or in God's country and so
14:24
ok so Washington DC I have to stay
14:26
focused a squirrel a lot you can say ok
14:29
so Washington DC health and fitness when
14:33
did you get married why would you
14:36
thought where did all that married four
14:38
years ago in October
14:39
wow so I got married yeah I was 30
14:43
a little 31 pounds was 30 or 31 I was a
14:48
little see what I got here maybe a
14:50
little later in life I don't know is
14:51
that later um you know some people are
14:55
in the 20s whatever I had my 20s to
14:58
explore and I loved I was I was a gypsy
15:01
I lived in like three cities in three
15:03
years I think or five years or something
15:05
and I'm cool he San Francisco and
15:09
Florida and it was amazing I loved it I
15:13
met some of the best people I have great
15:15
connections everywhere and great
15:17
friendships everywhere
15:19
and yeah worked fertile Clubman I just I
15:22
was I was young with no tie so I got
15:24
transferred and it was awesome
15:26
very cool
15:27
lots of experience speaking of to build
15:29
on perspective you know to go from how
15:32
you grew up now was your mom kind of did
15:35
you keep in touch with them when you
15:36
flew the coop or were you like I'm out
15:38
I'll call when I you know I'm around I
15:41
mean how did you love so one great thing
15:43
about my parents also is that they
15:45
really raised us to be independent and I
15:48
think I took that and ran with it maybe
15:49
a little more than the rest of my
15:51
siblings didn't think about me and one
15:54
of my older sisters is kind of the same
15:55
in that sense and so you know I mean I
15:59
checked in with them but they were
16:01
always just kind of like alright she's
16:03
good she's doing her thing she's finding
16:06
her way um so yeah dude so you got
16:11
married in your 30s yeah and then see
16:14
now I'm trying to build because I know
16:15
now you are mom stepmom and you've got a
16:19
lot of things going on and you know
16:21
speaking of things that we don't expect
16:23
to happen share with us a little bit of
16:25
where all that came into play and just
16:29
the emotions around motherhood that in
16:33
the last you know five years or so has
16:35
kind of struck you yeah
16:37
motherhood changed me in ways I was not
16:40
ready for definitely are not expecting
16:44
maybe maybe that's the better word so I
16:46
think I was ready just not expecting it
16:48
I wasn't ready or expecting so not one
16:50
up on me right word good either
16:55
I was very career-driven and I and again
16:58
like I said very independent so I met my
17:00
husband and thank God he was you know
17:02
very supportive of those things but also
17:05
God sends you exactly who you need right
17:07
because he really helped me to set
17:10
appropriate boundaries I could have
17:13
definitely been a workaholic and there
17:16
is addiction in my family so that runs
17:19
gamut in a lot of different ways and I'd
17:20
even think it could show up in a career
17:22
or in work life so he definitely helped
17:25
me set appropriate boundaries and make
17:27
sure that you know my priorities were in
17:29
check and my my family did come first
17:32
and I wasn't on my laptop all my think
17:35
you know no it's funny the the subject
17:38
of addiction like I
17:39
think that I mean I struggled a lot
17:43
through my own seasons of you know and
17:47
then dick because addictions can come in
17:48
everywhere right so if you look at what
17:50
does it mean is a perpetual habit that
17:52
takes the place of other things that
17:54
maybe you should be doing or that are
17:56
important or that you know what I mean
17:58
so it can be any habit from you know
18:00
people get addicted to drinking water
18:01
they get addicted to exercise all the
18:04
way the sex drugs and rock and roll that
18:06
are destructive but the reality is it
18:08
doesn't matter if it's even a good habit
18:10
if it becomes you know a false idol if
18:13
it becomes something that you truly
18:14
can't step away from when something else
18:17
that's meeting you and is calling to you
18:19
for the greater good is more important I
18:20
mean in a lot of ways it's its massive
18:23
selfishness that you can't set aside
18:25
right and whatever it is for it's just
18:27
the self serving constant desire and
18:30
I've struggled with it myself and my own
18:32
life and I know many people have and I
18:34
think that you know one of the things
18:35
that I'm trying to constantly kind of
18:37
teach my kids is that that idea of
18:39
moderation of recognizing when something
18:42
else has become more important trading
18:44
what you want most for what you want at
18:46
the moment you know what kind of those
18:48
ideas full well knowing that they two
18:50
are going to struggle get up fall down
18:53
learn grow right that's where that space
18:55
happens but I think work in particular
18:58
becomes something I was reading recently
19:00
for mothers that a lot of women you know
19:04
we live in a generation both you and I
19:05
you're younger than me but there's this
19:07
space where it's like get up grow go out
19:11
you know do your gypsy thing get this
19:12
great career contribute to the world and
19:15
then boom mothering well you can't
19:17
accomplish and we we latch so much of
19:19
our identity into that sense of I
19:21
accomplished something right I live
19:24
heard this presentation I earned that
19:25
paycheck I you know got this many things
19:28
written or liked or did or done or I
19:30
looked this way or so there's this
19:32
outward need for that inward validation
19:34
and that worthiness but when you're a
19:36
mom like literally I mean you know
19:39
you've been there right that's like
19:40
getting through the day just feeding
19:42
clothing and watering your own plants in
19:44
your own garden is is it well a the
19:47
world doesn't really necessarily come
19:48
alongside and good job
19:53
ever ever and even in your own home your
19:57
spouse you know full well as wonderful
19:59
as they are even they don't get it they
20:02
don't understand so you go into this
20:03
like lonely spiral and your kids can't
20:06
do it or say it I mean you know my kids
20:08
are just now at that point where they'll
20:09
stop and go thanks mom and they don't
20:11
even recognize how those words just just
20:14
melt my heart I never try to take them
20:16
for granted when they come out and I and
20:18
I oftentimes will sometimes my reaction
20:20
will be welcome or it's about time but I
20:22
always you know what I always do best I
20:24
always try to say you're welcome just in
20:27
a genuine you're welcome move on because
20:29
I think that is they going to feel that
20:31
affirmation of that gratitude but I
20:34
think it's so normal for moms to go into
20:37
that space
20:37
of baby comes in baby needs me but I
20:41
have this kind of conquest of outwardly
20:45
affirmation work something else and I
20:48
think therein lies you know what I've
20:50
often called the mom life crisis of you
20:52
feel like you have a complete reset did
20:55
you experience some of that when
20:57
motherhood started 100% the complete
21:00
reset for sure and mine actually kind of
21:04
went the other way where all of a sudden
21:06
I was like work is not that important I
21:10
kind of don't want to go back ever maybe
21:13
hai-yah like I don't know but right now
21:17
I know that this little baby needs me
21:19
and I cannot fathom handing him to
21:24
someone else to take care of for the day
21:26
and so so yeah that's what I mean I was
21:31
very career minded very I'm going to
21:33
accomplish this by the time I'm 35 and
21:35
this by the time I'm 40 and you know
21:37
retired by 50 and all of these thing and
21:40
have this title and this great business
21:42
and sell this great business and you
21:45
know all these big dreams and then all
21:46
of a sudden I was like but God needs me
21:50
to do this and I read something that
21:53
really stuck with me just in passing I
21:55
can't even remember I think it was maybe
21:56
a mom blog or something that was what if
22:00
your greatest calling is mothering your
22:03
kids yeah
22:04
and I was just like wow okay so now I
22:08
need to be a better mom yes I love it
22:11
one blog and done man it took me like
22:13
seven years of reading those blogs
22:14
feeling bad about myself the same thing
22:17
the next day and expecting a different
22:19
result I'm like wait mottely you said it
22:22
can be defeating right cuz not like okay
22:24
now okay so I want to be a good wife I
22:27
want to be a good mom I need to learn
22:29
what that means while also being a
22:31
stepmom who's a full-time mom because my
22:35
son lives with us full-time so your
22:38
first marriage came with a bonus kid yes
22:41
yes okay and how old was he when you got
22:44
married nine okay so we I mean you know
22:48
I'm a stepmom right so I have three
22:50
stepkids and blending a family has been
22:53
I mean man the motherhood train hits you
22:56
and you fall down you get back up you
22:58
figure it out then the stepmom train
22:59
hits you and I'm still trying to get
23:01
back up from that it's been so
23:03
challenging to manage those emotions the
23:08
goodness in it the joy in it these
23:09
extended family these amazing new kids
23:12
but then the dynamics of I'm not really
23:14
their mom they have a mom and then my
23:17
kids are trying to move through and then
23:18
just kids like one day everything's
23:21
great and they're like you know give me
23:22
a lollipop and a popsicle and the next
23:24
day it's like I'm happy makes me happy
23:26
I'm happy and I got and it's like trying
23:28
to figure out how to help their little
23:30
hearts just grow into their best selves
23:32
when that it feels like a full-time job
23:33
so in step parenting so you have your
23:37
son full-time yes okay and does he do
23:40
you mind telling us the details of that
23:42
like does he see his mom how did he die
23:44
he does somebody go see his mom every
23:46
other weekend and he's going there also
23:49
now on Wednesdays so he does see his mom
23:56
the boundaries are different so there's
24:00:00
not a lot of co-parenting that happens
24:02:00
so the boundaries are different at our
24:03:00
house you know than they are at her
24:05:00
house which makes it a little bit
24:06:00
challenging and like he said I'm not the
24:09:00
mom so did you want to be I mean was
24:11:00
there a time though that you were like
24:13:00
I'm gonna be mom honestly yes
24:17:00
and I think even more so because he's
24:20:00
with us all the time ya know I was like
24:22:00
okay I'm gonna be I'm gonna be an
24:23:00
awesome way and I'm gonna be an awesome
24:25:00
mom and like I got the family and yes
24:29:00
let's do it
24:30:00
yep and then honestly for like the first
24:34:00
few years it was very easy and and very
24:36:00
natural and I think I probably trapped
24:41:00
like overcompensated almost like that
24:43:00
addictive personality came out again
24:44:00
like yo yo what I'm gonna do
24:46:00
yeah oh my gosh you're talking you're
24:48:00
talking my talk and walking my what I
24:50:00
totally did that for like five or six
24:52:00
years and I feel like now I'm in that
24:53:00
space where I'm like with my head in the
24:55:00
sand was like and all these people I'm
24:57:00
looking around and you know people are
24:58:00
like oh that's so great and I'm like no
25:00:00
we're not gonna end no it's gonna be
25:02:00
great maybe the Brady Bunch and
25:04:00
everybody's always gonna be happy and
25:06:00
they're just gonna happily move back and
25:08:00
forth between families and we're not
25:09:00
gonna have any troubles and and now that
25:12:00
you know they're getting older and some
25:13:00
of their own identity issues and
25:15:00
emotions are kicking it I'm just I'm
25:17:00
struggling to stay in a space of where
25:19:00
I'm like really what is my role like one
25:21:00
day I still want to be the mom and the
25:23:00
next day I just want to be a friend and
25:25:00
then the next day I'm like I'm just
25:26:00
gonna give them their vitamins and stay
25:27:00
out of their way and then the next time
25:29:00
like not giving you anybody means you're
25:31:00
not being nice to me but they and I keep
25:34:00
just being like Lord just okay I just
25:36:00
wanted your peace and grace and
25:37:00
forgiveness which I still need with my
25:39:00
own kids too you know and they need for
25:41:00
me because lord knows I screw up as well
25:42:00
so it's that you know every day figuring
25:45:00
it out moving through and it sounds like
25:47:00
your stepson who you said was 14 now I
25:49:00
might be in that space of back and forth
25:52:00
and I'm not sure and then that you're
25:54:00
right the different rules the different
25:55:00
belief systems yeah and you know
25:57:00
teenagers hit and it does something to a
26:00:00
kid we can remember being a teenager and
26:03:00
going through everything that teenagers
26:05:00
go through so yeah that back hit and I
26:09:00
was like okay stop the freight train
26:13:00
let's figure out exactly like what is
26:16:00
this rule what does this even mean how
26:17:00
does this work and the truth is there is
26:19:00
no answer you know and there's no like
26:22:00
handbook so you really just takes a lot
26:25:00
of Prayer and a lot of patience and
26:27:00
really a lot of communication with my
26:30:00
house
26:31:00
yes which you know also it's hard
26:35:00
sometimes because you you don't know is
26:38:00
it okay to say this oh oh I feel so much
26:45:00
of those same things because it's like I
26:47:00
can't imagine the emotions that they go
26:50:00
through right and their kids and back
26:53:00
and forth and as dads and their roles
26:54:00
and and then having to deal with two
26:56:00
women right I mean that's women can be
26:58:00
women Lee and just emotional and one day
27:01:00
this and you know they try to listen and
27:03:00
be peaceful and patient and you're right
27:05:00
that feeling of like I feel bad saying
27:06:00
this because that's their child in their
27:09:00
situation and then you don't want them
27:10:00
to feel responsible because it's not
27:12:00
their fault right I mean you're just
27:13:00
loving them and I mean for me I'm just
27:16:00
such a like rah say it all when I think
27:19:00
it all and then go oh wait sorry I
27:21:00
didn't really mean that yeah yeah yes so
27:29:00
there's that challenge and then you know
27:31:00
challenging also to seek my younger son
27:35:00
is too and Victor's fourteen so there's
27:37:00
a big gap you know that's like a lot of
27:40:00
difference and a lot of even just you
27:42:00
know appropriate boundaries for
27:44:00
appropriate ages yeah and learning how
27:47:00
to balance that in a house without one
27:49:00
feeling like you know what is favored
27:53:00
over over n0 did you know that you were
27:56:00
still gonna want to have your own kids
27:57:00
after you got married and Zeke came
28:00:00
along and all that good stuff
28:02:00
uh yes we I always wanted to have kids I
28:05:00
always knew I would have kids I didn't
28:07:00
know honestly if I would have my own
28:09:00
kids or if I would end up adopting or if
28:12:00
me Manny and I actually also went
28:14:00
through foster parent training so we
28:16:00
just prayed a lot about kind of you know
28:18:00
what God had for us and I went through
28:22:00
some struggles like getting pregnant but
28:23:00
it was a real blessing and miracle that
28:26:00
I have a feeling that God has more
28:28:00
children
28:30:00
for you somewhere somehow I mean just
28:33:00
hearing your heart for foster and adopt
28:36:00
a ax and I'm just saying I'm looking at
28:39:00
the writing on the wall and the
28:40:00
brightness telling me that you all
28:41:00
better get some more bedrooms huge heart
28:45:00
for that and Mandy goes to my husband
28:47:00
does too so yeah we'll see we stay open
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and try to be obedient right that's
28:53:00
absolutely open to whatever you're
28:55:00
you're called to you that day so let's
28:57:00
talk a little bit more about so you've
29:00:00
got Zia coos - you've got so he is are
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you still are you home with him he's not
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in preschool yet so are you still trying
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to juggle balance work where has that
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settled it for you now that yeah so Zika
29:13:00
actually does go to a preschool he goes
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to an amazing Christian preschool here
29:18:00
that starts at two so he's - he's two
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and a half he's in preschool and he's
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got a love-hate relationship with there
29:29:00
he hates it in the morning when he has
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to get ready so he goes just in the
29:33:00
mornings everyday in the morning for
29:35:00
from eight to twelve so I am really
29:39:00
focused on my recent results business
29:41:00
and The Sisterhood of Christian
29:44:00
entrepreneurs group and I jammed
29:47:00
so much as I can into those four hours
29:51:00
we also have our wonderful nanny who
29:53:00
helps one day a week so she's actually
29:55:00
here today just to give a little bit
29:58:00
more time and flexibility you know for
30:01:00
meetings and running those businesses
30:02:00
and then the rest of the time is me
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being a mom and I've really learned that
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I have to be you know very present again
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my priorities are my face first my
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family and then fitness which is you
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know my business and my passion so I
30:18:00
have in that order and I have to make
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sure that you know I just live by that
30:24:00
in my calendar - I love that you're
30:26:00
talking about schedule because I am
30:28:00
constantly telling my clients and
30:30:00
anybody that I'm working with I'm like
30:31:00
look you are going to set yourself up
30:33:00
for failure if you feel like you can
30:36:00
just work whenever it's convenient right
30:38:00
Oh baby sleepy and I'll do this okay I
30:39:00
like I love that you're like oh I've got
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these hours at preschool and I
30:43:00
these hours when the nanny's here and
30:45:00
you're being totally transparent and
30:46:00
when you're not sometimes it's even easy
30:48:00
when I mean for me it took me about
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eighteen months maybe two years to get
30:53:00
that away from that feeling that okay
30:54:00
the kids are busy like they're having
30:56:00
some downtime or they're outside or
30:58:00
maybe they're watching a show I could
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probably sneak off and do like a half an
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hour of work where I could probably and
31:03:00
what I would always find death is that
31:05:00
as soon as the kids interrupted me while
31:08:00
I was doing work I was like monster mom
31:10:00
where I was short-tempered I was
31:12:00
frustrated and they're just like I just
31:14:00
wanted to let you know that I spilt my
31:16:00
water I'm sorry and you know and I feel
31:18:00
horrible so I really had to learn and
31:20:00
this was hard to just when they were
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busy to go I'm gonna do Andriy I'm gonna
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clean my own room I'm gonna work on a
31:27:00
project around the house I'm gonna sweep
31:29:00
I'm gonna organize the calendar is
31:31:00
something something in my home in even
31:34:00
that downtime because if I was doing
31:36:00
that I don't mind at all if they
31:37:00
interrupt me while I'm folding socks I'm
31:39:00
like great but it's like we what we
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talked about in the beginning of that
31:44:00
that me and that consumption of my
31:47:00
career and what I need to do and even if
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we feel like our career is purposeful
31:51:00
and we're helping others there still
31:52:00
it's validating it's giving us something
31:55:00
our ego is being is being talked to and
31:57:00
fed when we're in that space versus in
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that mothering and that home care and
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you know it's it's constant you just are
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in that space of giving like I'm
32:06:00
prepared to give I'm like I always say
32:08:00
I'm like I'm in my trampoline mode you
32:10:00
come and we're just gonna keep going on
32:11:00
we're gonna bounce off versus my like
32:13:00
clicks and yes and you feel I feel
32:16:00
better about it I'm sure you do too I
32:18:00
feel better about the work I
32:19:00
accomplished in a day as a mom and as
32:22:00
you know a business owner and for the
32:25:00
people that I'm helping you know build
32:27:00
their businesses with recess and results
32:29:00
and it's just and everyone knows my
32:32:00
priorities so there's no question about
32:34:00
why I didn't answer a text or why it
32:36:00
took me a day to get back to an email
32:38:00
yeah that is Crito I just want to point
32:42:00
on that for a second because I think
32:43:00
anyone who's listening who is
32:45:00
considering starting a business or
32:46:00
wanting to do something outside their
32:48:00
home or in the workforce I love what
32:50:00
there's a lot in what you said everyone
32:52:00
knows I think as moms we can't be afraid
32:54:00
to say to the people that we work with
32:57:00
these are my priorities like and it's
32:59:00
not gonna change and as soon as you
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begin a relationship with them I'm
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always saying start as you mean to go if
33:05:00
you don't want to answer emails 11
33:06:00
o'clock at night
33:07:00
then quit answering emails don't even
33:09:00
turn on your email right leave your
33:10:00
laptop in your office don't be afraid to
33:13:00
respond with my kids need me right now I
33:15:00
just won't be there
33:16:00
I'm recanting that you know because then
33:18:00
people do begin to just expect she's
33:20:00
probably not around because it's you
33:21:00
know 4:30 and that's in the middle of
33:23:00
the after school routine or and then you
33:25:00
do remove some of that feeling because
33:27:00
it's hard to not want to please right so
33:30:00
all the time anybody anybody that needs
33:32:00
you your work your family your friends
33:34:00
your parents your kids and it kind of
33:36:00
just eliminates when people understand
33:38:00
your priorities and you're living them
33:40:00
out there matching your actions you're
33:41:00
not answering the phone at 4:30 and
33:43:00
going I can't talk right now
33:45:00
they don't pick up the phone I was
33:48:00
teasing you gather down like your
33:50:00
voicemail is always full but yet I am
33:52:00
maybe my voicemail should be full more
33:56:00
for me right now I'm sorry I loved it I
34:00:00
loved it I'll have to check yeah I I
34:03:00
would love to hear so we talked a little
34:05:00
bit about the farm girl in Nebraska how
34:08:00
we ended up work it sounds like you're
34:10:00
still trying to kind of live out some of
34:14:00
your kind of callings outside your house
34:15:00
with recess and results with the sister
34:17:00
of Christian entrepreneurs which is
34:18:00
amazing you're doing it in a way that
34:20:00
aligns your priorities I love that
34:22:00
that's one of the biggest takeaways from
34:23:00
our conversation is setting your
34:25:00
priorities and sticking with them you
34:27:00
can't be all things to all people at all
34:29:00
times where are you feeling like what
34:32:00
are some of your goals right now like
34:33:00
where are you aspiring to where maybe
34:35:00
some areas that that's been showing you
34:38:00
need some work that you need just dig in
34:40:00
or step back like what do you feel like
34:43:00
the next year might hold for you well
34:45:00
the next year will bring another baby
34:47:00
family do in November how did I miss
34:50:00
that
34:52:00
luckily on social media I feel like I
34:56:00
have um so doing November like
34:59:00
Thanksgiving time so we'll bring another
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baby which will bring a whole new
35:05:00
just met right I'm a new normal and get
35:09:00
used to get used to that which is very
35:12:00
exciting I have a Thanksgiving baby
35:15:00
November 25th and he's I told that in
35:22:00
the beginning that my little guy came
35:24:00
home from school early today a little
35:26:00
bit of a tummy ache and if he needed me
35:28:00
that we might have to take a break you
35:29:00
need me are you okay oh he's awake but
35:35:00
you know what good news I'm actually
35:36:00
just wrapping up we had like 10 more
35:37:00
minutes that blanket looks so cozy
35:41:00
grandma made it yes yeah and his
35:44:00
birthday is November 25th looks like
35:46:00
you're feeling a little better nice bar
35:50:00
on Thanksgiving I ate turkey in the
35:51:00
hospital like the cafeteria turkey
35:53:00
mashed potatoes and gravy watch the
35:54:00
Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade cried
35:57:00
because you know you always cry for like
35:58:00
the first three months after you have a
36:00:00
baby for no reason at all okay I'll be
36:08:00
right out thanks sweetie for saying hi I
36:12:00
am he's he's my youngest oh my goodness
36:16:00
so I can't believe you're having another
36:17:00
one okay so November another baby's
36:19:00
coming so do you think you'll probably
36:21:00
step back for a while do you have are
36:22:00
you working now to take that time away I
36:24:00
am and recess end result is also in
36:28:00
partnership with my sister so we have
36:31:00
that kind of backup but yes I'm
36:35:00
definitely gonna take you know maternity
36:37:00
leave which I would love if America's
36:40:00
maternity leave was like a year like in
36:42:00
Europe amazing but I love also that a
36:47:00
lot of what I do I can bring my baby
36:49:00
with me so I'm going to be focusing more
36:51:00
on our mom and me program in the next
36:53:00
year which allows me to take the baby
36:56:00
with me when I teach and teach them on
36:59:00
you know times that work for me and then
37:02:00
yeah we'll figure out the baby's
37:03:00
schedule and have to readjust the
37:05:00
calendar to make yes I love that you
37:07:00
know that you're gonna have to do that
37:08:00
we got a puppy recently and my oldest he
37:11:00
was just he was killing me because he
37:13:00
was like he came out one day and he was
37:15:00
like I just thought that the puppy would
37:17:00
just like go along with us
37:19:00
do what we need to but I feel like I
37:20:00
have to change my life or what the puppy
37:21:00
needs I'm like not saying a word
37:26:00
preparation for parenting someday you do
37:29:00
and I love that you know that and you're
37:31:00
gonna be open and flexible and I think
37:35:00
one of greatest things that I've heard
37:36:00
in our conversation is you know know who
37:39:00
you are what's most important you do not
37:41:00
flex your priorities and that comes
37:42:00
across in those moments where you're
37:45:00
choosing between like you said church or
37:47:00
something else going on you're
37:49:00
absolutely that morning devotion time
37:50:00
versus digging into work you're choosing
37:53:00
that date night instead of you know I'm
37:55:00
going on with my girlfriends right like
37:56:00
there's just there's no going out with
37:59:00
girlfriends when you have a two-year old
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girlfriends has gone out I know it's
38:09:00
good and you know what you know that you
38:11:00
have good girlfriends when they're like
38:12:00
I'm with you sister I'll send you a text
38:14:00
so hey how are you miss you and all as
38:16:00
well and just you keep on moving and
38:19:00
it's totally well and I found that I
38:21:00
would try to go out because I thought I
38:22:00
was supposed to go out because you see
38:24:00
all this stuff it's like oh mom you have
38:26:00
to take care of yourself and go out and
38:28:00
relax but I would get out and just want
38:30:00
to be home yeah honestly I will say one
38:34:00
thing I've learned it you know it
38:35:00
through mom hood is it does take a
38:37:00
village it takes a village and you need
38:39:00
your people you know to support you and
38:41:00
be around you and you know whether
38:44:00
that's a mops group or your neighbor you
38:48:00
know your family if you're blessed to
38:50:00
have them living close to you but you
38:53:00
definitely need a village and that's
38:54:00
another thing I want to really focus on
38:56:00
in the coming year is just continuing to
38:58:00
build that because with a virtual
39:00:00
business and working you know in in
39:04:00
positions that were so virtual prior I
39:06:00
was home a lot and I really feel like
39:09:00
this is a great season I was interacting
39:11:00
with a lot of people from everywhere but
39:13:00
this is a great season for me to be very
39:15:00
in tune with my community and really
39:17:00
kind of plant myself here and I feel
39:20:00
like that has really started kind of
39:22:00
unfolding that and letting that blossom
39:24:00
in the last few months and it's such an
39:26:00
amazing feeling so I'm excited for that
39:28:00
to continue - oh I love that I love
39:30:00
you're just hope and joy and excitement
39:32:00
you
39:32:00
know that the valleys are gonna come and
39:34:00
you're gonna ride them out and stay
39:36:00
strong in your faith because it's always
39:37:00
what pushes us through and we know that
39:39:00
and I don't know why at least for me I
39:41:00
had to try so many other things before I
39:43:00
was like you know the best situation
39:47:00
always comes around when I just pray and
39:50:00
talk to jail and stay calm and work my
39:53:00
way through I don't know why I keep
39:54:00
thinking that oh you know this time if I
39:56:00
exercise more if I drink more if I eat
39:58:00
more if I am with this person if I look
40:00:00
that way then I don't feel better then I
40:01:00
feel better and these things that we try
40:03:00
in life until we stop and go huh all
40:05:00
right right here open the word
40:07:00
everything you need I love that about
40:09:00
yeah and if you can truly learn to
40:11:00
listen and hear you know your purpose
40:14:00
and and God guiding you back I mean it
40:17:00
opens a whole new worlds for you and
40:19:00
that's when you really start to feel
40:20:00
true success amen amen
40:22:00
okay so my last question for you is what
40:25:00
is float in your mom boat right now so
40:27:00
what that means is like what new thing
40:28:00
have you discovered it's a grocery store
40:30:00
that you can't get enough of book that
40:32:00
you're reading blog that you're
40:34:00
subscribing to you I don't know a new
40:39:00
razor that you're just like oh my gosh
40:41:00
this cuts my shaving time enough like
40:43:00
what do you got anything what is
40:44:00
floating my mom boat I would say two
40:47:00
things the mops group that I recently
40:49:00
joined I don't know you've never been a
40:51:00
part of mops but it's awesome
40:54:00
he's just like such hearty moms and mops
40:59:00
is because for a long time I was like
41:00:00
mops like okay so it's like a house
41:02:00
cleaning like out what do we get
41:03:00
together and we learn how to mop like
41:04:00
what is it there we go mom's a
41:07:00
preschoolers it is a Christian based
41:11:00
organization and it's just moms I mean
41:13:00
they just come together me a breakfast
41:15:00
and we talk about mom's stuff and then
41:17:00
everyone goes home and it's simple and
41:19:00
awesome and something like that at the
41:22:00
church slash school where my boys go to
41:24:00
school and it's like on Thursday
41:26:00
mornings and I do I love it and to be
41:28:00
honest one of the first few times I went
41:29:00
is because they had the most killer
41:30:00
oatmeal bar like ever and it was like
41:33:00
I'm totally going for the oatmeal bar
41:34:00
and then I was like I'm sorry god no I'm
41:36:00
not yes I am so true I was like you know
41:40:00
what I can sit down and eat and see kids
41:43:00
at school and know
41:44:00
one is asking me friend yeah yeah and I
41:47:00
just you beloved and carry over with
41:49:00
other moms who get you it's your people
41:52:00
it's your village yep yes so that is
41:54:00
really floating my mumble and I would
41:57:00
encourage any mom to find a group like
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that doesn't have to be mops but again
42:02:00
like your village is so important do not
42:04:00
underestimate that and then there is a
42:08:00
blog that I really love called the
42:09:00
better mom which I've been following and
42:14:00
the read and just given like little
42:15:00
snippets from there but a face to face
42:18:00
time at mops is really what awesome
42:20:00
alright so find a village get some
42:22:00
people you've been reading the better
42:23:00
mom do they have a podcast I wonder if
42:26:00
they have a podcast I've been I've been
42:28:00
walking the dog and I finally recently I
42:30:00
was resentful at walking the dog and
42:33:00
then I was like if I just start
42:34:00
listening to podcasts now I get back
42:36:00
from walking the dog and I'm all like
42:37:00
jazzed up and inspired because I've
42:38:00
found these great podcasts to listen to
42:40:00
you so one that I love to that I know
42:42:00
you would love is called mom struggling
42:44:00
well okay yeah it's Emily Thomas I think
42:48:00
is your last name and oh my goodness
42:50:00
really good I share it sometimes on my
42:52:00
Facebook page so on my juice box mom
42:54:00
page oh yeah mom struggling well just
42:57:00
funny witty all kinds of topics all over
43:01:00
the map so she's great so check her out
43:03:00
- so you want other book I just read for
43:05:00
the love oh so funny axe I need to look
43:10:00
right it's a great mom read sorry never
43:14:00
admired that you read because mom read
43:17:00
is an oxymoron to me yeah read when I
43:21:00
know I know it's hard to find time for
43:25:00
sure but it's a great Christian book and
43:27:00
it was funny and light-hearted but also
43:30:00
gave really great insight and yes for
43:32:00
the love well thank you Beth thank you
43:34:00
for taking time I'm gonna wrap up so I
43:37:00
can go snuggle and check in and probably
43:39:00
make some chicken little soup for my
43:40:00
little guy oh yeah I'll be prank you
43:42:00
feel better so thank you and I'm so
43:44:00
grateful that the rest of my day is
43:46:00
clear so he and I will just do what we
43:48:00
do it'll be great and that's why we take
43:50:00
all the risk so we can have the rewards
43:52:00
of yep
43:52:00
I'll be right there to pick up that's
43:54:00
where yeah
43:57:00
it's me Beth god bless you I hope I get
43:59:00
to see you in February we will keep in
44:01:00
touch over on and I do too
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yes god bless you also and we'll talk
44:05:00
soon all right take care of yourself bye
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[Music]
42:05:00
are here and this is now and this is
42:08:00
what God has brought to you and what he
42:10:00
needs you to do I'm such a believer that
42:12:00
what needs you in his story and in your
42:14:00
life it's gonna find you and it's not
42:16:00
gonna knock once it's not going twice
42:18:00
it's gonna keep knocking until you
42:19:00
answer the door and if you just open the
42:21:00
door and let it in and love it which is
42:24:00
all he's asked us to do with anything
42:25:00
anyway he brings us if you just open the
42:27:00
door let it in and love it so much
42:29:00
blossom so much frozen all of a sudden
42:31:00
you picked your head up and you're in
42:32:00
this huge field of sunflowers like I was
42:36:00
so busy planting all these and then you
42:37:00
go oh wow and then you just you just get
42:40:00
back to planting the one you're at and
42:41:00
when you're on and you look around and
42:43:00
and there's so much beauty and
42:45:00
magnificent and and when you get to that
42:48:00
spot where the soil is hard and the Sun
42:50:00
has gone away you can still look up and
42:52:00
know you're in a field of sunflowers and
42:54:00
I mean if this this feeling of looking
42:57:00
back at knowing that and I think that
42:58:00
the encouragement that you would bring
43:00:00
to a mom who might be in that place like
43:03:00
you and I were of that darkness of that
43:05:00
just going through the motion
43:07:00
not what I expected not what I needed
43:09:00
faith-filled or otherwise you know just
43:11:00
feeling that space of like I don't
43:13:00
understand and the encouragement in your
43:15:00
story of hang on there's something more
43:17:00
there's something immeasurably more and
43:20:00
better coming what advice would you give
43:23:00
a mom who might be considering going
43:24:00
into a direct sales program who's
43:26:00
working right now maybe in that forty
43:27:00
over a week job what are a couple of
43:29:00
tips that you would say as she's
43:31:00
considering a transition like that sure
43:34:00
I would say well I mean if you feel like
43:40:00
it's using you're being led to that
43:42:00
definitely take a look
43:43:00
I think there's we always have these
43:45:00
what ifs right what if I fail what if
43:47:00
it's too hard what if I can't do it just
43:51:00
trust yourself to know that you probably
43:53:00
can okay and it's very it's not a hard
43:56:00
business it's a pretty simple business
43:57:00
make sure that you are teamed up with an
44:00:00
awesome leader with a wonderful team of
44:02:00
men and women that can help you and lead
44:05:00
you and guide you because I think that
44:07:00
that is very very powerful place rapes
44:10:00
we just need that inspiration we need
44:13:00
those resources we need somebody that's
44:15:00
already walks the path well and I think
44:18:00
also I'm here I am telling you what your
44:20:00
advice should be but I notice I mean I
44:22:00
see a lot of direct sales I mean I have
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friends that are in this and one of the
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things that I see is the different
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styles because I see them in my facebook
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feed and I see the way people approach
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it and you know look at this is finding
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someone who is genuinely motivated by
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the same things as you so if they're
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encouraging you to join your team so
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that you can have more time with your
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family
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but then the first day you say to them
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or you consider saying I can't be at
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that meeting my kids have something
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going on and they freak out they're not
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motivated by the same things as you so
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if their posts are all look how much
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money you can make look at all the free
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product you can get look at the travel
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you can have or you know I mean and if
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that's what motivates you then that's
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the space that you're in for whatever is
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happening in the circumstance of your
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life but genuinely looking into if
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you're saying this is what I'm gonna get
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but as soon as I say that's important to
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me and I need it that doesn't match it
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like you see where I mean like I
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sometimes
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these carrots that are being thrown out
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and then people grab on and then you're
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like just kidding actually you have to
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make some money I mean there's like this
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space you know the honesty and the
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transparency behind it all yes yeah I
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love that I agree with that
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wholeheartedly because yeah I mean it
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ultimately is your business like right
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you get to decide what that looks like
45:37:00
if you want it to look like you want to
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work a few hours a week perfect if you
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want to you know work 20 hours a week
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create whatever you want I love that I
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think it is it is about you and it
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should always be about you and what you
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want out of whatever it is that you're
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doing absolutely yeah so last question
45:53:00
before we wrap up what is floating your
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mom boat right now so meaning we know
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you love iced tea are you reading any
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books that you can't put down have you
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recently discovered an approach to
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parenting that's like rocking your world
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and getting your kid to change his
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underwear daily and clean his room you
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know like what is something going on
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your marriage that's like yeah we should
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have done this before I mean what's
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going on it's just awesome right now and
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good that you're learning and growing in
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um that's question I think it comes to
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all stuff that we've talked about God is
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just saying girl you got to trust me and
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that's in every single thing it is and
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so that's just been the place that I've
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been in designed as a teacher so he's
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been home a lot this summer and we've
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all been together and that has been
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wonderful but sometimes challenging it
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has not the battle I think gods they
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know more it's just that I think that's
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what's rock and my mom boat is just like
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finding the joy and trusting him and
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honestly I maybe have had such a
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fabulous time together we've just you
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can't always be outside so we just been
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doing a lot of playing tennis together
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and bike rides and walking and just
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getting out and moving and just enjoying
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life together it's we need more of those
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really simple moments I'm all about
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simplicity I really really am so awesome
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yeah awesome thank you Thank You Jenn I
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love what you shared great encouragement
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for moms through many of what they're
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you know embarking upon the reality
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between what you say
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you feel what actually happens life
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rarely goes according to plan yes thank
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God for that
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right my fear my plan was not gonna go
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anywhere good so I'll just go ahead and
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take this one so thank you Dad I
47:43:00
appreciate your time and best of luck
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with Rodan and fields and everything
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you're doing I mean it looks like
47:49:00
correct amazing I love seeing you
47:51:00
growing in it and thriving in it and
47:53:00
I'll definitely make sure to share a
47:54:00
little bit more about who you are and
47:56:00
what you're up to when this goes live
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which will probably be in just a couple
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weeks not too long I can't wait and
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Thank You Manny for reaching now I just
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I love your spirit I love your hearts
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for people for moms for children for the
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Lord I just am so blessed by you and
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like I said you were unit said we just
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met recently this year but I I feel like
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I've known you for years so I look
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forward to being able to chat and just
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yeah me too and I can't wait to hug you
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and Elijah at school next year all right
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girl thank you thank you every day
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take care